Monday, July 27, 2009
Cancer family support
I started this page to provide support for the friends and families of the Cancer patients. two of my brothers were diagnosed with Cancer in 2002, it was very strenuous dealing with the emotions. I had so many questions and didn’t know where to turn to. I decided to make this blog page to provide some support for those perplexed by this phenomena. Often when we hear about someone who was just diagnosed with this illness we may not realize that it is effecting everyone close to them as well. Please write about your encounter with this disease or any advice you may have that could help families facing this emotional challenge.
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It is not just the cancer patient that you need to worry about, interacting with other family members are also very important, unfortunately cancer hearts everyone close to the patient. Finding a support group is very important. There are cancer support group in every city for the family and friends of the patient. I suggest you seek them out.
ReplyDeleteMy father lost his battle with pancriatic cancer. he died at a very young age of 61. he was diagnosed about 4 months ago. he was a canidate for a surgery called a "whipple", but had to go through chemo and radiation the shrink the cancer.
ReplyDeletewe had hope up until 2 days before he died. my family is in complete shock. we knew the diagnoses wasn't good but all was riding on a surgery.
the question i have is....if you are diagnosed with this type of cancer, should you put yourself through chemo and radiation?
a grieving daughter
1. I am not a doctor and I can’t give you medical advice, my brother also died of pancreatic cancer once he was diagnosed with Cancer, they did a surgery and removed most of his pancreas and part of the liver, but within few months the cancer returned. The doctor who did the surgery basically told us to just leave him alone. “ he has few month to live” but we refused to believe that. We took him to john Hopkins university who has a very advance technology. They extended his life for three years and for the first two and a half years I say he lived a quality life. They were experimenting with new drug, in addition to the drug every Friday he would get a light Chemo , he didn’t lose his hear, he was able to travel and basically had enough time to put his afar in order. If you ask me for some people there are still options the outcome may not be exactly what we wish for but you should always explore your options.
ReplyDeleteI have a very good friend of 30 yrs who found out about a month ago that she had a tumor on her brain. I visited with her and have been there for her as well as family and many other friends before her surgery. She has now had surgery and is still in the hospital. The tumor was the size of a golf ball and was stage 4 cancer. The Dr. could not get all of the tumor. I have not seen her and spoke to her since surgery. I have spoken many times to her husband who also has cancer and has been fighting cancer for the last 5 yrs. She is in a hospital a couple of hours away and I think she will be coming home soon. I can not get her off my mind and have cried a lot over this. If she does not come home soon I plan on visiting her if she is up to it. Or I will visit her when she comes home. Several of us are going to be making their meals for them. My question is.....what do I say to her and her family. I just don't know what to say. My heart is aching for them. Please help be supportive and say the right words.
ReplyDeleteFor cancer patients and their family the hardest thing is to keep repeating the same storey. Every time someone asks for an update they go though the emotions again but the last thing they want to hear is suggestions. There is no right way of dealing with then unless god forbid you are in a same boat. My suggestion is be yourself treat them as you did before, don’t ask too many questions let them open up and if they feel like talking just listen
ReplyDeleteI just wanted to talk with other people that have family members with cancer. My younger that’s 13 has cancer for the second time, she was 3 when she had it for the first time. I was wandering how other people support their family members, for instants I encourage Ashley and pray for her.
ReplyDeleteThe hospital should be able to proved you with the information about the support group nearby. I suggest you try them firt.
ReplyDeleteI am always so sad to hear of anyone with cancer and when it comes to children, it makes it so much more dramatic. I am so sorry for all who have to face this battle as it can be a tiresome road to travel. I just found my husband has inoperable lung cancer and it about floored me. We never thought this would happen to us, and I say us, because this is a battle that is shared not by the patient themselves, but also by the loved ones around. He has been in such pain and the meds only help to somewhat keep him comfortable. I’m hoping come Monday, that cancer specialist will be able to give us a clue as to what our direction will be. It’s the testing and waiting, and more testing and waiting that has been extremely irritable. We just want to get something started to help with the pain and deal with the disease. So for all of the loved ones who have a loved one with cancer, patience is the key. Lots of love, prayers and keeping the faith are a necessity with lots of patience. It’s a rough road (new to me) and I’m already exhausted, but we all have to hang in there and be strong for them. They need us now like never before
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ReplyDeleteThe good news is there are new methods to deal with lung cancer nowadays, some treatments depending on the type of cancer is even nonsurgical, one of my friends was diagnosed with lung cancer he was treated at MD Anderson in Huston, TX. It has been two years now and he is cancer free. He goes back every six month or so for a checkup.
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